Video instructions and help with filling out and completing Can Form 2220 Attach

Instructions and Help about Can Form 2220 Attach

Hey everybody happy Wednesday when it's Wednesday that means that I'm on the website katimorton.com if you haven't popped on there to see what it's all about you got to check that out and also I'm on YouTube so if the ask your questions on yesterday's video I'm using the hashtag Katy FAQ I've found someone I've already answered some so if you're wondering if your question got answer you might want to go check it out and see if I did and today I have three and I journal topic so stay tuned until the end and I am feeling a little bit better but I'm still not a hundred percent so thank you for all your well wishes I'm going to keep taking care of myself right we got to take care of ourselves good self-care because VidCon starts tomorrow so if any of you are going to be there let me know okay question number one hey Kati they're referring me to a psycho analyst and I'm so nervous and no one answers my questions what is it would I just talk and the therapist would just sit and listen how is it different from talk therapy or CBT etc and they told me that I'll remember stuff from my childhood how do they do that yeah how do they do that right so this is a great question and honestly there aren't a lot of psychoanalysis or analysts that's what they call the people who do psychoanalysis there aren't a lot of people that do it anymore in a very pure form that makes sense so how therapy started was you know psychology in general everybody talks about Freud being the grandfather of it and he did psycho analysis now the way the psychoanalysis works is traditionally I would sit facing the wall away from the therapist or a psychiatrist or psychologist or whoever and I would never be I wouldn't be looking at them at all they'd be like behind me and they would ask me questions and if I tried to find out any information about them they'd say things like well why is that important to you and is that something that you would lie would you like to know is that something that you've wanted to know about someone else and they just try to keep everything off of them they don't share anything about themselves they oftentimes don't even you know look at you face to face while you're doing therapy now times have changed things have changed and I'm sure that the person you're going to see it doesn't do it so traditionally but the way that it works is they work on your past the whole thought and basis of psychoanalysis is that we recapitulate or you know make them happen again issues that we dealt with in the past so as a child if we felt that things were really out of control for us and we had no way to make it better we set ourselves up in our present day doing the same thing so that we have that same experience where things are really out of our control we feel like there's no way for us to gain that control we'll be in relationships that may have been abusive because when we were little our dad abused our mom that's kind of the belief system behind it and so by working through what they call projections when I take a past experience or a thought about another person and project it on to my therapist using that they'll help work through those past issues now I know it it's always kind of psychobabble II and you're like Kati what the heck does that mean but really it means that we're using your past issues we're bringing them into the current and with your therapist you'll work them out to have what they call a corrective emotional experience so all of the things that you've really struggled with in your past and those situations you keep finding yourself in they'll try to break that cycle and help you you know have better relationships and better experiences and if any of you want more information I'm sure you can google it and just make sure it's a reputable source and it's not just like blog spot.com you know um but that's what it's basically based on there's a lot of other things to it but that's the bare bones of what it means and probably what it will look like when you go um it's a lot like talk therapy except for the fact that the therapist usually remains pretty neutral and isn't as involved as they are on talk therapy and it's a very long term CBT it's different from CBT cuz CBT is very short term so those are just some you know easy differences between those things and I hope that helps if any of you had experience with psychoanalysis let us know what it was like because I don't do it personally so things may have changed and I may be out of date I just know where it came from and kind of where it's moved a long time so that would give us a little more info okay question number two my psychiatrist says that I have major control issues I call myself a control freak as my anxiety level rises up when I'm not in charge of or even when people who I work with or friends seem not to take their tasks seriously so even when it doesn't apply to her she gets very anxious since I was a child I've always been a perfectionist and when situation seemed to get out of control I get really upset at those people and tend to cut them out of my life it's either black or white but lately it's been worse and my inner circle of friends tends to