Video instructions and help with filling out and completing Can Form 2220 Reserved

Instructions and Help about Can Form 2220 Reserved

Music bigger welcome hello San Francisco TEDx oh my god blinding light hi everybody how are you fine oh my gosh okay so my name is Mel Robbins and for the last 17 years I have done nothing but help people get everything that they want within reason my husband's here and so I've done it in the court room in the boardroom in the bedroom in people's living room whatever room you want to be in if I'm there I will help you get whatever you want by any means necessary for the last three years I post I host a syndicated radio show five days a week I go live in 40 cities and I talk to men and women across America who feels stuck do you know that a third of Americans feel dissatisfied with their lives right now that is a hundred million people that's insane and I've come face-to-face with it in this new show that I'm doing which is also insane it's called in-laws I move in with families across America you guessed it who are at war with their in-laws we move them into the same house I've herbally assassinate everybody we open up Pandora's box and I get people to stop arguing about the doughnuts and who's hosting Thanksgiving dinner and talk about the real stuff and that's what I want to talk to you about I'm here for you I'm gonna tell you everything I know in less than 18 minutes about how to get what you want so I want you to take a millisecond right now and I want you to think about what you want you and I want you to be selfish screw Simon and the wee thing this is about me right now sorry Simon um what do you want and here's the deal I don't want it to sound good to other people being healthy will not get your ass on a treadmill losing your man boots so you could hook up with somebody now that's motivation so I want to know what do you want do you want to lose weight do you want to triple your income do you want to start a non-profit do you want to find love what is it get it right here you know what it is don't let the death just pick something that's part of the problem you won't pick so we're really talking about how you get what you want and frankly getting what you want is simple but notice they didn't say it was easy it's very simple in fact if you think about it we live in the most amazing moment in time so that thing that you have up here whatever it may be you want to use healthy eating to cure your diabetes you want to figure out how to take care of the elders and start a new hospice center you want to move to Africa and build a school guess what you can walk into a bookstore right now and buy at least ten books written by credentialed experts on how the hell you doing you could google it and you could probably find at least I don't know a thousand blogs documenting the step by step by step transformation that somebody else is already doing you can find anybody online and cyberstalk them you can just walk in their footsteps and let that you know just use the science of drafting follow what everyone else has done cuz somebody else is already doing it so why don't you have what you want when you have all the information that you need you have the contacts that you need there are probably free tools online that allow you to start a business or join a group or do it over the do you want it all comes down to one word shut the front door you know what I'm talking about the f-bomb it's everywhere you hear it all the time and I honestly don't understand what the appeal is of the word I mean you don't sound smart when you say it and it's really not expressing how you really feel it's sort of a cheap you know shot to take and of course you know I'm talking about the word fine how you doing I'm fine oh really you are dragging around those extra 40 pounds you're fine feeling like roommates with your spouse and you're fine you haven't had sex in four months you're fine really I don't think so but see here's the deal with saying that you're fine it's actually genius because if you're fine you don't have to do anything about it but when you think about this word fine it just makes me so angry I mean here we are at a conference about being alive and you're gonna describe the experience of being alive as fine a flimsy and feeble word your crappy say your crappy if you're amazing say you're amazing tell the truth and this not only goes for the social construct oh I don't want to burden you with the fact that I hate my life or you know hey I'm amazing but that would make you feel terrible the bigger issue the bigger issue with fine is that you say it to yourself that thing that you want I guarantee you you've convinced yourself that you're fine not having it that's why you're not pushing yourself it's the areas in your life where you've given up where you've said oh I'm fine my mom's never gonna change so I just can't have that conversation I'm fine you know we got to wait until the kids graduate before we get divorced so just sleep in separate bedrooms I'm fine I lost my job I can barely pay my bills but whatever it's hard to get a job and you know one of the reasons why this word