Video instructions and help with filling out and completing Will Form 2220 Summary

Instructions and Help about Will Form 2220 Summary

It's time to switch things up a little bit as the main mission of this channel is to empower fellow students help you become a more well-rounded and ultimately better version of yourself I'm working on expanding the breadth of med school insiders content I will still be making regular videos on study and productivity hacks but will also incorporate occasional book summaries such as this one as you are all aware by now I'm a huge fan of reading and the lessons you can learn I know that not everyone is able to get through as many books as they would like myself included so in this video I'm gonna talk about one of my favorite books from 2016 and a few lessons that I learned from it Music what's going on guys this is Jay from med school and ciders calm in this video we're gonna go over mark Manson's the subtle art of not giving a f well I would classify this as a self-help book mark Manson is a very atypical self-help author he acknowledges the toxic aspects of the self-help craze how constantly seeking improvement in your life can actually focus on what you lack and what is wrong with you which ultimately leads to an unhappy and unfulfilling existence where happiness is always just out of reach although the title seems to imply you should not care about anything the underlying message of this book is actually this everyone cares about something choose wisely what those things are first embrace the uncomfortable he explains it best when he says the desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience and paradoxically the acceptance of one's a negative experience is itself a positive experience the more you pursue feeling better all the time the less satisfied you become as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place on the other hand pursuing the negative often generates positive for example the pain in the gym improves your health and energy failures in school and work give you a better understanding of your own shortcomings and how to improve them in the future being open with your insecurities it makes you more confident overcoming challenges and fears is what allows you to build courage and character everything worthwhile in life is one through surmounting the associated negative experience if you constantly run from the uncomfortable you will feel constantly entitled to be happy at all times therefore any challenge coming your way is seen as an injustice and any disagreement becomes a betrayal we must all be comfortable with the idea that some suffering is always inevitable no matter what you do you will face challenges failures loss regrets and ultimately death the problem with happiness many of us are guilty of delayed gratification particularly those of us pursuing the medical profession we say when I finish training I can be happy or when I am an attending I'll know that I made it or we can have superficial aspirations if I can look like person acts or be with person why then I will be happy this entire approach is the problem however happiness is not an ultimate end goal or solvable equation instead it is an emotion and emotions have evolved to be directions on our life compass positive emotions are positive feedback for good behaviors and negative emotions serve as a call to action it's evolution essentially telling you that something is not quite right the struggles that you overcome are equally important to creating and sustaining happiness Manson argues that problems never stop they merely get exchanged and/or upgraded happiness comes from solving these problems in fact it's a huge problem for many of us at least in the American culture that we should suppress our negative emotions for social and cultural reasons but to deny one's negative emotions is to deny the many feedback mechanisms that help a person solve their own problems I love Mark manses breakdown of life goals it's a common question to ask someone what do you want out of life and everyone is gonna have a fairly similar answer happiness family great job etc but instead ask yourself what pain do I want in my life what am I willing to struggle for this is the question that will give you a better insight on how to live your life what pain are you willing to sustain for example many pre-meds early in their college career dream of the many advantages of being a physician but not everyone is willing to put in the long days and nights studying the four additional years of medical school the 80 plus hour work weeks and residency etc that's a big reason why the majority of pre-meds on the first day of college are no longer pre-med at graduation time asking yourself what are you willing to struggle for will lead you down a path that is more worthwhile for you Manson also applies as logic to relationships most people want to have a great sex life and an awesome relationship but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations the awkward silences the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there and so instead they settle people want a romantic partner but you don't just find someone you believe is amazing without first appreciating the emotional rollercoaster that is dating rejections and failed attempts people want an amazing body but you only get there if you are able to endure and appreciate the pain and challenges associated with regular exercise and meticulous tracking of your caloric intake your defined by what you're willing to struggle for those who enjoy the struggles of the gym are the same people who are strong and athletic going back to the toxic nature of self-help culture the truth is that we are not all exceptional feeling good about yourself for no reason